The need of a partner

Today at work we dealt with a problem.   Yes, I know we all deal with problems every day.  This is a problem that I thought of and still think of as a boil you need to lance.   A problem that will continue to grow, to fester, to poison until it is lanced.   Once lanced, the poison can be drained and the healing process started.   The process of lancing, now that is just plain painful. 

We have had discussions all day.   More time has been devoted to this than really should be.   But then again do you back away from the poison or “man up” and take care of it.   Personally, I don’t deal well with confrontation and I tend to let the poison grow and spread too much. 

In one conversation a colleague I love and trust said, “ I don’t even know what to say”.   I thought about it and told this person to wait until the kids were asleep the go and talk with their spouse.   They have a long relationship and one that has endured many obstacles.   

After I typed this, I thought of all the times I have gone to Joe to talk through an obstacle.   I thought of the times I just needed to unload on him and have him hear me.   Yes of course I have lost that.   But I still have Joe.  I still have the essence of who he was and his true care to keep his people safe.   As I typed my response to my coworker it once again made me grateful for what I had but sad for what I have lost